When Frazzled at First Light, Get Grounded with Reflection

by Judy Stone-Goldman on October 15, 2012

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Reflection grounds the frazzled self

Did this tree wake up frazzled?

I planned to bound out of bed early this morning and get to work. I envisioned an intense, productive day that would leave me fully prepared for my trip this week to the ACSLPA Conference in Calgary. I looked forward to feeling engaged and focused, the work flowing and my mind at ease.

Instead I woke with a jolt from the alarm, immediately resentful of morning’s light. It had been a night of waking and uncertainty – how long have I been awake? was that a dream? – and I felt ungrounded, frazzled, my emotional balance lost.

I knew my own advice: begin with writing, find a way back to myself. But one of the characteristics of not being grounded is resistance. Resistance to what one should do, could do, needs to do, would benefit from doing. Even to what one enjoys doing and wants to do.

I got up and got dressed. As I did a gentle tug-of-war with my resistance, I began thinking about something Louise Crooks, owner of Keys to Clarity, asked me in my interview on blog radio last week.

She said, “You’ve told us about writing as a way to get grounded. What about the reflective part?”

Creating space for reflection helps us get grounded

Opening myself up to a reflective space

I spoke about creating space around us, stepping back from the hectic pace and carving out time and space to think, to feel, to ponder: to be. Reflection does not come automatically in a life filled with long to-do lists and competing demands. We have to invite it in, claim it, honor it, encourage it to join us for tea.

Walking for reflection to get grounded

The pleasure of small details on a reflective walk

So that is what I did this morning. I went outside in the early morning light and walked up and down my street. I did not know what I was looking for, just that I was appreciating the air, the gray skies (yes, we are happy that rain has returned to the Pacific Northwest), the fall colors. I said hello to Smokey, my neighbor’s cat. I watched my anxious thoughts fade and calm acceptance emerge.

Then it was time – I knew when – and I came back in. The frazzle was gone. With my focus restored and my energy rebalanced, I was ready.

Questions for Reflection: What do you notice about yourself when you wake up ungrounded? What helps you move towards a focused, grounded place? What does it mean to you to “create space for reflection”?

Writing Prompts: “I can tell I’m ungrounded in the morning when ______” (then keep writing); “When I wake up frazzled, I know I need to ______” (then keep writing); “My favorite ways of entering reflection are ______” (then keep writing); “As I read this post, I realize I need ______” (then keep writing).

Reflection Options: Reflect in place—Stop what you are doing and breathe slowly, paying attention to whatever is going on inside you or around you. Notice your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Reflect in movement—Take a five-minute walk; notice details and be curious without controlling your thoughts or feelings.

 

 

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Julieanne Case
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October 15, 2012 at 11:37 am

I never thought to write or get reflective when I’m ungrounded. I woke up the same way having woken up too early and unable to fall back to sleep – only to fall asleep hard and woken up quickly. I too resist and I did this morning. Must try this. Thanks. Maybe it’s the New Moon. The energies are flooding us and it’s a major shake up time. So each moment of this gives us an opportunity to find ways to balance ourselves. Hugs.

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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October 15, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Hi Julieanne, Whatever it was, we both felt something this morning. I do encourage you to consider reflection and writing. I think you’d tap into your artistic spirit and find avenues to that grounded place. I know I always do. You could even do free-form expressive painting–no real painting goal in mind except to express yourself and find your way to balance. (I talked about using other artistic modalities in the interview I did, although I don’t have experience myself doing this with painting or dance.) Hope you found your way to a balanced day.

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Louise Crooks
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October 15, 2012 at 3:11 pm

Wow, what insights and gems you shared in this post Judy. Thanks for posting this. I don’t even remember asking you that question. The Universe supports us in so many wonderful ways. I love your highlighting the ‘resistance’ we feel when we step towards doing something we know will help, but yet stops us from doing it. Thanks so much. It was a joy to interview you on your expertise and the powerful topic of Changing from Frazzled to Focus.

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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October 15, 2012 at 6:01 pm

Louise, You see, you don’t even know the brilliant questions you ask! It was, indeed, a very good question because I internalize the reflection part so easily, I don’t always make it obvious to people who are newer to reflective practice. I often talk about resistance because I think it offers us a helpful cue–at least it’s helpful if we don’t come down negatively on ourselves for having a natural reaction. I can model that behavior very well for people (both the resistance and the acceptance of it!) Thank you again for being such a wonderful guide in my interview, and of course for being here today and leaving your comment.

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Lisa Tener
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October 22, 2012 at 5:17 pm

I love your insights that reflection does not come naturally and that resistance is a characteristic of being ungrounded! I too find that nature is the perfect antidote to both those things.

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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October 22, 2012 at 9:35 pm

Hi Lisa, I’ve really focused more lately on turning to nature. I remember you mentioning taking a walk if facing a writing block (in the course materials), and I’ve concentrated on remembering that option for being ungrounded, too. Sometimes just looking around thoughtfully and consciously–even out a window–helps break a spell that might keep me too trapped inside myself.

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Aayna October 30, 2012 at 2:28 am

A very beautiful post!! I thoroughly enjoyed reading it. When I feel ungrounded, I lack the much needed sleep. My mind gets so much tensed that I really can’t think about anything else. This time energies me and gives me the determination to go ahead with an issue. Thanks for the share.

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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November 2, 2012 at 10:01 pm

Hi Aayna, I agree with you completely – lack of sleep makes me so vulnerable to being ungrounded. Sometimes I don’t want to “give in” to sleeping enough because I want to get things done, but that’s very unproductive. I appreciate your comment.

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