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When Change Knocks on Your Door, You (Eventually) Say, “Come In”

by Judy Stone-Goldman on December 19, 2015

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Things change…even when you’re not sure you want them to. So it is with this blog: The Reflective Writer is arriving at its conclusion. Now.

This is the final post for The Reflective Writer blog, and it is a post I have been writing internally for several months now. Thinking about what I might say, thinking about what “the final one” should be, thinking and mulling and revising and rejecting — all the ways one can be engaged but not doing, lost in words but not writing. I so wanted to create a final post that would be a perfect capstone to this experience and, as with nearly every hope that accompanies the word “perfect,” I became stymied. I could never arrive at that idealized conclusion.

In the end, I am able to come to this final post not by having the exact right set of words or being sure what the conclusion will be, but simply knowing it’s time. Sometimes we get ready for a change because we’ve spent just enough time avoiding it. We get tired of our own hesitation, our strategies for procrastination both subtle and overt, our backtracking and sidestepping. We get ready because we are bored with the alternative.

In digging through a box that made the move with me to my new home last year, I found materials from a writing course I took many years ago with author Rebecca Wells. I browsed through the notebooks and found striking words of exhortation, directed towards writing but speaking to me now of life in general.

“You can turn on the existential spit of indecision forever.”

“You commit to something. It’s the kettle on the stove.”

I loved these so much I wrote them on 3×5 cards to put with my journal so I could read them daily. The existential spit of indecision — was there ever a better description of the state we experience when avoiding choice and change? My existential spit of indecision about this website started well over a year ago, and now, today, I am jumping off the spit. I am done turning, done roasting, done debating.

As for the next commitment, I already have a new kettle on the stove. Unexpectedly, I have launched into a new teaching arena: I teach fitness for seniors in two classes —  a low-impact cardio dance class and Silver Sneakers©, a class to improve muscle strength and endurance, flexibility, and balance. The story behind this will wait for another day and, perhaps, another blog. Suffice to say that interest, experience, impulse, enthusiasm, and opportunity came together with startling ease.

Moving to new experiences does not mean the old ones get tossed. I continue to teach workshops, where reflective writing finds its place among other brain-based stress-reduction methods, and I am never far from my own journal. My needs have not changed. I must put pen to paper, explore my inner world, and contemplate my experience in order to change and grow. Though I will not be sharing thoughts through this blog, I will be writing and reflecting. I hope you will do the same.

With deep appreciation and affection for all who have read this blog, I sign off now. May your inner world and love of self-exploration through writing continue to grow.

Judy Stone-Goldman

 

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Gayle Merrefield
Twitter:
December 19, 2015 at 7:30 pm

Judy, as usual, your thoughts are perfectly expressed. I have keenly missed reading you the past few months, but I knew you were on the other coast THINKING about something I could not know. However, I did sense you were coming to the end of this experience. Thank you for generously sharing your ideas and life on this blog. It has meant a great deal to me.
My best wishes as you explore and evolve!
Gayle

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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December 19, 2015 at 8:03 pm

Gayle, Connecting with you through this blog has been such a pleasure for me. We’ve had synchronicity and reciprocity, and I know the energy between us will continue (but let’s skip the parallel foot fractures and the like). Thank you for being such a loyal reader, and may our paths cross again in good time.

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William Charlebois December 19, 2015 at 11:08 pm

Au Revoir! 🙂

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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December 30, 2015 at 9:08 am

Merci! Please stay in touch, Bill. Let’s connect in 2016.

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Marva
Twitter:
December 20, 2015 at 12:16 pm

It’s been an adventure and more adventures await because you are still in the arena

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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December 30, 2015 at 9:07 am

So true, Marva! Thank you for joining me here one last time. I’ll take some of your divine wisdom with me.

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Zara Gamage December 20, 2015 at 1:01 pm

Judy, thank you for your authenticity and compassion that comes through in York writing. I will be rereading your blog over time and please include me in your future endeavours
Hugs and love

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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December 21, 2015 at 8:44 am

So lovely to hear your voice, Zara! Thank you for the words and support. The blog will disappear on-line, but if you ever want a “dose” to explore, let me know and I’ll send you some. I’ll add your email to my list and you’ll heard from me shortly. (I think you already have contact information but you’ll get it again.) Hope your ARTbundance© heart is filled with joy.

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Kate Krings December 21, 2015 at 1:40 pm

Judy,
I’ll miss your blog, but am very excited for you as you begin the next chapter. I’m so glad you’ll still be using your gift of teaching and in a fun and energized way! Wishing you all the best in 2016 and hope to see you in person at a workshop or around the department!

Warmly,
Kate

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Judy Stone-Goldman
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December 21, 2015 at 4:29 pm

Your comment and good wishes are much appreciated, Kate. I feel sad to “say goodbye” to the blog and you, the reader, but I’m also excited about moving forward. Thanks for stopping by one final time. I’m sure we’ll cross paths one of these days. Best always, Judy

(On a separate note, I just put in the mail the donation for your project!)

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